Spiritual Answer to Family Conflicts
As a parent we know that raising a family is the most difficult and challenging job we will ever have. How many times have we said, “I could have done that better.” Or perhaps, “Why did I react in that way to my child?”
We all dream or fantasize of a perfect family; one that is harmonious and loving. And while we may experience peaceful, fun times as a family, unforeseen conflicts are inevitable. Since parenting does not come with a manual and there are no universal instructions, we generally rely on our own experiences to resolve family conflicts.
What if you grew up in a dysfunctional family and you have no constructive guidelines from which to draw? Perhaps your family ignored its problems and you never learned how to manage, let alone resolve problems? Some families fight, while others face their problems with a constructive approach that addresses the complaints of its family members.
As Maya Angelou said, “When we know better, we do better.” Isn’t that the truth! The last thing we want are conflicts with our children. Everyone wants a family that is happy, cordial and loving.
What happens when conflicts are not resolved? What if relationships are strained and you find yourself frustrated and at the end of your rope? Do you seek outside help? Blame yourself? Pretend things will get better?
There’s a spiritual solution to every problem.
It is only when we fight, and believe the lie the mind/ego says; telling us we’re right, they’re wrong and they shouldn’t have…
We forget that we are spiritual beings having a human experience, not the other way around. We have forgotten a simple truth: We are here to love and be loved. As a spiritual being you have within you the power to solve/understand every problem. As a parent, it is your duty to take care of your children; to be the role model they need to be kind and loving people in the world.
We are fortunate to live in an era where parenting help is so easily accessible. There is one caveat here; the parenting journey begins with you. Not your children. Not their friends, not any outside source.
When you become the change you wish to see in your child they will change. Your children mirror you and regardless of their age will absorb the attitudes, values and beliefs of those they spend the majority of their time with.
What do you want for your family? What do you want for your children? How do you resolve sibling rivalry and other family conflicts within your home?
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